He's Just Not That Into You

I hope everyone is having a great start to their week so far! This time change has thrown me off! lol. My weekend was alright for the most part. I had to work the whole weekend which wasn't so much fun but I got to spend some time with some great people! I went and saw "The Green Zone". It was a very good movie and a plus because Matt Damon was in it (he is gorgeous!). I got to see my baby nephew Gavin who is just the sweetest thing. I love spending time with him!

I had the chance to watch "He's Just Not That Into You" this weekend as well. Wow! What an eye opener to relationships! I absolutely loved the movie! I think any girl could relate to one of the girls in this movie. Then today, I decided to go to Borders and buy the book. I just got done with it and holy shit was it hilarious and painfully true! The chapter that I went over a couple of times was chapter 3 which was titled "he's just not that into you if he's not dating you" and they said that "hanging out is not dating". One of the stories in the book really related to my current situation. After I read that part, I had a little mini epiphany! My friend Mike apparently is not into me that way. If he wanted to date me he would be dating me right now! I have been stuck in this current situation for 2 1/2 years! I have hopes that he will change his mind and wanna be with me like that but as painful as it is to say he doesnt want to be with me like that. I'm mad at myself because I have been holding onto him for so long and that he would change his mind when I could of been with a wonderful guy that actually wanted to be with me! I'm pissed because I have had some chances of going out with some really great guys and I have turned them down because I was so stuck on Mike and thinking if I held on long enough that he would change his mind and say he wants to be with me. Unfortunately, I dont think that is going to happen! I am coming to accept that! FINALLY! I'm done waiting around for him.

I need to accept him (I cant change how he feels or who he is), forgive him (he was doing the best that he could), and release him to clear space for a more loving and meaningful relationship (if one decides to come along someday). Here comes the problem, do I cut ties with him or do I keep him as a friend (that would be extremely hard for me to do with the feelings that I have for him) ? I guess I will have to do some "ing" work and take it from there!

If you are single or stuck in a crazy "dating limbo" sort of situation. I HIGHLY reccomend reading He's Just Not That Into You. You will be enlightened after reading it!

Its time for me to get my "ing" on and do some work here! Sending you all love on this beautiful monday! :)